Family dinners can be scary, but they don’t have to be. If you find yourself in a tense conversation over the holidays here are a few tips that might help you navigate it a little easier.
It’s important not to shame the person. Ideally, you want to have a conversation, actively listening to each other and trying to find some common ground.
Be empathetic, it’s a vulnerable thing to have your values questioned and it can make people defensive.
Pick your battles, not every situation is ideal for talking things through and sometimes it’s better to just change the subject. It may be best to wait for a moment when you can talk to the person alone, without distractions. This might also help make them feel less “on the spot”.
If the conversation goes well, feel free to ask if you can share some credible information with them. It’s important to ask their permission first.
Lead with your relationship and be patient. This is someone you care about even if you can’t manage to see eye to eye. Change doesn’t happen in an instant.